Motivational Monday #71 - The Change in the Weather

Every year about this time we see a change in the weather.  For those in the north east, they saw a HUGE change last week in the form of super storm Sandy.  It looks like they will now have to face a lovely nor'easter coming to freeze up all the water in their homes and dump snow on people who still don't have electricity.  Gotta love the onset of winter weather!

Here in the desert we are experiencing a less dramatic cooling trend.  Today will be in the 90's, but by Saturday we will be a cool, bring out the snow parkas, 63 degrees.  I am already dusting off my electric socks to make sure I don't freeze in my bed.  (What can I say, I have been a desert rat for a long time now!)

It seems like every year at this time people start discussing the weather.  It is either warmer than they can ever remember, or the coldest/wettest/nastiest winter on record.  It doesn't seem like there is much in between.  Even though we all have these same conversations each year, we keep on having them regardless of what this year's weather really happens to be.  It is as if the conversation itself is a time honored tradition on par with summer BBQ and Monday Night Football.

After years of listening to different versions of this conversation, I am struck by one interesting fact.  People tend to still be surprised by the weather.  I have to admit this is a little confusing.  When it snows, they are surprised.  When it doesn't snow, they are surprised.  When it rains, they are surprised.  When it doesn't rain, they are surprised.  As far as I can tell, the earth has had weather as long as it has existed, thus as long as human kind has existed...yet we are still surprised!

So here are a few spoiler alerts:

1. It is cold in the winter.  This may in fact mean snow and all manner of icy icky-ness.  You may be required to use chains on your tires or stoke a real fire to stay warm.  You may lose power.  You may be trapped in your home.  You may have to shovel snow.  It happens.
2. It may not be super cold this winter.  You may not get the snow you expected, and that may be a problem for the snow pack the crops rely on.  The ski resorts may not open on time.  It happens.
3. It may be dry this winter.  There is the possibility that you may not get the rain you need this winter.  You may be worried about wildfires later in the season.  You may be concerned about reservoir and water table levels.  ( I bet you guessed it...) It happens!

Yep, indeed, these are just a few of the conversations we have each year, but it all comes down to not being able to control the weather, and thus needing to be prepared for whatever happens. Farmers have to plan for early and late freezes.  Cities have to plan for low water levels.  The travel industry has to plan for fewer winter vacationers when the snow is late.

How do you plan?  What do you do to make sure you have what you need to weather the storm, or the lack thereof?  How do you make sure you are ready?

This happens more than we would like to admit.  As much as we talk about it, we tend to forget how often our friends, family and neighbors are impacted by the weather.  I remember the ice storms a few years back which had tens of thousands displaced.  Now we have the fallout from super storm Sandy ahead of a large winter storm.  Who can forget the huge wildfires we have seen in the west, or the drought throughout large areas of the country?

Having a weather plan does not make you an extremist.  Knowing how you are going to take care of your family during extreme weather just makes good sense.  Mother Nature doesn't always send us a tidy memo with explicit instructions, so we need to make sure our plans are broad and flexible.

So there you go, the Motivation you need this Monday.  It really is time to get a plan.  Take that plan and put it into action.  You will feel better when you do.

Motivational Monday #70 - The Storm is Coming!

I woke up this morning to the local news telling me hundreds of thousands of people had evacuated.  Pictures showed train stations and airports empty.  Power was already out in some areas, they are expecting water surges of eleven feet, and the storm is still a few hundred miles off the coast.

I think it is safe to say this will be a bad day for a lot of people...

Every time I see a big evacuation like this I wonder how well these people are prepared.  Of course it is my business (literally) to think about it, but I also wonder from a warm fuzzy human aspect as well.  It must be scary to pick up and depart your home, not knowing what you will find when you get back.  A home is where your comfort zone is.  It is familiar and safe.  To leave your home because it isn't safe anymore must be emotionally difficult.

When evacuations are ordered I also think about logistics.  I wonder where people will go, how they will travel, and what they will take with them.  I worry a little bit that they will find themselves away from home and family and without the things they need.  I am concerned that in their haste they will walk away without the basics.  These thought are not unfounded, as history has shown us time and again that people leave without the things they need.

It is a fact that in moments of crisis, stress or uncomfortable decisions, people's normal thinking patterns change.  I know of a woman who was asked to leave her home because of wildfires.  Her husband packed the kids, food, clothes and the family pictures.  She packed her makeup.  She wasn't a shallow woman, in fact quite the opposite, but when it came down to it, she froze.

Obviously I think a family's documentation is important, but there are so many other "essentials" that need to be included in an evacuation plan.  Here are a few of my top items.

1. Living things - This includes family, pets and neighbors that may need assistance.
2. Things to Sustain Life - This includes food, water, medication and cash.  It also includes clothes, blankets and medical supplies.  It may also include fuel and camping supplies, depending on the situation.
3. Things to Simplify Life - This includes things like identification, financial and insurance information, evacuation plans and contact lists.
4. Things to Make Life Pleasant - This includes activities, electronics (and chargers), games, books, and creature comforts.  It also include sentimental items such as family pictures and heirlooms.

So what would you put on your list to take?  Do you have a formal list made?  Do you have 72 hour kits already in place? What have you done to prepare?

Most of us will never have a nasty hurricane forcing us to evacuate, but with floods, wildfires, ice storms and earthquakes, just to name a few natural disasters, many of us live in areas that require preparation.  So go pick one thing, and get started.  There is no time like now.

Motivational Monday #69 - My Clean House *giggle*

Today I cleaned my house.  Who am I kidding?  I attempted to clean my house, and only succeeded in putting a dent in the project.  Short of having a housecleaning fairy, I want to know who really has all of their house clean at the same time.  A fully clean house may either be the 8th wonder of the world...or an empty theater set, but not a real home!

I think many of us have "Clean the House" projects on our lists.  They are items that can never really be accomplished, but are an endless journey of little progress and major setbacks.

Being prepared is the same.  It can never be "finished" and is always changing.  The preparation we need when single is different than when we are married, which is different than when we have young children, which is not the same as older children.  Being an empty nester is different even still.  I remember Anna Nicole Smith leaving her entire estate to a son who died before her, and nothing to the brand new daughter she had.  Obviously she had taken the time to prepare, but she didn't update her plan.  Oops.

So, as this is a Motivational Monday, and I just depressed you, I will attempt to add a little motivation.

Start where you are.  Pick one thing.  Prepare your financials, or your legal paperwork, or your funeral wishes, or your 72 hour kit, or your food supply.  Whatever you do, don't try and do it all today!  For the same reason you can't clean the whole house, you can't prepare your whole life for emergencies in one sitting.

So get up, get going, and get something done.  You can do it!  (How is that for motivation?  Should I offer to give you a locker room butt smack as I head you off into battle?)

Motivational Monday #68 - What Am I Doing Again?

Do you ever have that crazy feeling like you have forgotten what you are doing?  It is the sensation you get when half way through a task you realize you have no idea what the original purpose of the task was. 

Sometimes I get this feeling when doing the laundry or washing dishes, I mean really, what is the purpose of those nasty tasks?  I also get this feeling when I am knee deep in a closet clean out project and years of belongings that once nicely fit (read: stuffed) into my closet are now all over the room.  It is at the moment I find the once useful, but now broken/corroded/dated/ugly "wonder appliance" that I realize I have a few urgent questions:

1. What is this thing?
2. Why did I buy it?
3. Why did I keep it?
4. What do I do with it now? and most importantly...
5. Why in the world did I drag it out of my closet?

Yep, about then I have no idea what I was doing.

I think many of us feel this way about preparation.  We start out with a fabulous "pie in the sky" type of plan.  We say to ourselves, "Self, it is time to get prepared," but we don't give ourselves any specific goals.  It is kind of like saying, "I am going to organize my closet."  What does that actually mean?  Does it mean I am going to get rid of things that don't fit, or does it mean I am going to arrange all of the things I hate into nice even groups?

When organizing ourselves, it is important to have clear goals.  Your goals should be simple and have only a few steps.  Here are a few examples of organizational goals.

1. Today I will gather all of the extra blankets and put them on the empty shelf in the guest closet to make sure we have enough blankets when guests visit.
2. This month I will put the paid bills in the top drawer of my desk so that I can start a budget next month.
3. This week I will buy twice the normal amount of dry goods so that I can increase my food storage.
4. Today I will call the doctor and ask for a copy of my medical chart to include in my personal medical record.
5. This week I will make sure to recycle all "junk mail" before I put it on the counter to reduce clutter.

Do you see how simple and well defined each goal is?  Each statement gives a time the goal will happen, and lets you know the intended outcome.

In contrast, here are some of the goals I think most of us make.

1. Clean out the garage.
2. Clean the closet.
3. Get organized.
4. Go back to school.
5. Spend more time on myself.
6. Cook healthier meals.
7. Spend more time with family.

Do you see the difference?  The statements on the second list have no time frame, and no goal. They are abstract ideas, and you will quickly find yourself lost in the middle, asking yourself, "What am I doing again?"

My humble suggestion is that you break things down.  I tend to get lost in the task of dishes.  I can't tell you the number of times I will just walk away from a fairly dirty kitchen because I am overwhelmed and feel like I will never get the task done.  I found that if I tell myself I will go in and just unload the dishwasher, so that I can have a place to put dirty dishes later, I will get that done fairly quickly.  Then when later happens I realize I can put the dirties straight into the washer without stacking them on the counter.  Wow!  What a difference!

Once I identified a realistic goal, and the outcome I intended, the task was completed.  You may laugh that I get lost in the dishes, but I'm sure you have a task just like it.  Try breaking it down the way I did and see what happens.

Motivational Monday #67 - The Older I Get

Sometimes I have deep thoughts.  Other times I don't.  Sometimes I am just glad to string sentences together.  Let's be honest, this 'ole grey mare just ain't what she used to be!  I may not be ancient, but the older I get:

1. The More I Realize I Don't Know
2. The More I Forget

You can see where this is going...nowhere good!

How is it that when we were teenagers we completely believed we understood the world?  How is it we thought our parents were dinosaurs and our grandparents were remnants of an archeological dig? How exactly did we figure it "all" out?

Honestly, I think this falls under the category of "You Don't Know What You Don't Know."

As I have aged and become a parent, I have realized a few things:

1. My parents may just have known what they were talking about.
2. My grandparents were a bevy of untapped knowledge.
3. I had NO idea what I was talking about as a teenager.
4. Life can not be figured out by age 17.
5. Rice Crispy treats are yummy at any age.

So where has this strange collection of random information left us?  The older we get, the more we know we do not know, and the more we know we have forgotten.  While this may sound depressing, it is actually good news!  If we still have our wits about us enough to realize this, that means we still have time to take action.

I used to think I could remember every detail of my life.  Now I realize most days I can't remember what I had for breakfast.  The best solution for this faulty (read: normal) brain of mine is to write things down.  There are so many things that need to be documented, but honestly I only have time and energy for so many of them.

For now, I choose to document personal details.  This includes vital statistics, medical information, and insurance.  This way, if my brain takes a leave of absence I will have this information all ready to go.  Someday I will move on to bigger things, like my financials...but let's be honest, it is only Monday, and I have a whole week to get that motivated!

So here is the plug.  Prepared Binder is a great way to organize and record your person information.  It is simple, concise and ready to use.  Obviously I like it, or I wouldn't have created it.  I'm sure there are other ways to organize your information, but I am partial to this one.  Take a second and give it a look.

Okay, enough Motivation for this Monday....I am off to eat Rice Crispy treats!  While I'm gone, try reading a few of our past posts.  Sometimes I'm almost brilliant!

Motivational Monday #66 - Mountains We Climb

I would like to tell you I took a mental day (err, week/month/season) since my last post, but what I really did was much simpler.  I focused on myself and my family.

The holidays are tough for me.  I think I have mentioned I have a special needs child.  While that can add a lot of spice to family life, it can also be a real challenge.  The holiday season should just be renamed "The Season that Messes with Schedules." Between parties, late nights, gifts, relatives, big meals at odd hours and endless festive music and jingle bells, things can get dicey.

I'm sure I'm not alone in that feeling.  Many parenting blogs talk about the same thing, except they do it with a lot more humor and grace.  I'll just tell you it is hard.  What I think is interesting however, is that the holidays are a prime time for all the little things that we deal with each day to grow into huge problems.  As parents we quickly learn that if we aren't "good" with our personal mountains and obstacles, we bleed over into our kid's peace and the whole household spirals into chaos.

Every one of us has a mountain in our lives.  We likely have a whole bunch of hills surrounding that mountain as well. Each and every day we get up, strap on our lederhosen and start up the slopes.  Some days we head out with great energy and purpose.  Other days we scoot on our backsides a few inches and call it good.  If you are like me, you have probably rolled down the hill a few times too.

Since December I have been identifying the mountains and hills I need to climb, and more importantly, the ones I don't.  I have cleaned out closets and drawers.  I have donated and disposed of numberless boxes and bags.  I have reduced, reused, and recycled in every room.  I have eliminated and purged.  I have chopped down hills and smoothed out slopes.  I have in essence leveled the playing field a bit.

Why, you might ask, did I decide to break into a crazy cleaning fest right at the holidays?  Well, I've always been a little crazy, but besides that, I needed less.  A lot less.  You've heard the phase, you can't see the forest for the trees?  Well, I could barely see the trees for the trees.  In order to asses what was important, I needed to have less of everything.

Less is more.  Who knew?  Once I started getting rid of things, I realized just how much I own that I don't want or need.  After it was gone I could look around my space and see just how much I appreciated what I have left. I could feel at peace.

Now I think we have established that I am an organizational nut, however I'm not sure if I have recently mentioned I don't believe organization is all in boxes and binders and systems.  I think organization is also in heart, mind and spirit.  You have to feel like you know what is going on in your life and be content.  If you are constantly harried, frazzled and in chaos, it doesn't matter that your spice drawer is organized alphabetically.

So after all this time of soul searching, here are a few of the revelations I have had:

• Sometimes my best isn't as good as I had hoped, and that's okay. I am not actually required to do more than I'm able. I don't need to have the nicest/prettiest/coolest anything.  I can give my best effort at that given time, and I'm done.
• A clean home means I have less to look at, and thus less to stress over.  Now don't go getting ideas that I look like Donna Reed or June Cleaver. I have never in the past, nor will I ever vacuum while wearing heals and pearls. I have just found that putting things away and having clean/clear surfaces makes me calm.  Thus it is an area to spend my effort.
• Blogging, while a great way to share my thoughts with the unknown universe, isn't essential.  I remember when I first started the blog.  I blogged 5 days a week.  I scoured news feeds and looked for ways to tie in current events to emergency preparedness.  I'm sure the content was fabulous, but I was stressed.  I had images of a thriving blog that led to international acclaim and applause. (Oh wow, was I delusional...hehe.) I craved each new comment and every "like" on facebook. Now I am just glad when I see someone took a peek, and that's okay.
• I do too much.  For those people reading this who fall into the "friends and family" category, I know you just laughed out loud.  I am always taking on new things, but lately I have not.  I guard my time and my ability to have quiet.  Where once I wanted to be buzzing with activity, now I just want to have peace.
• My kids are important not solely because I love them, but because they make me a better person.  This may fall into the "what took you so long" category as far as revelations go, but true.  When I am calm and at peace with myself, I really enjoy being with my kids and experiencing life with them.  When I am crazy and stressed it is hard to find joy in their amazement, wonder and awe.

So there you go, that's what I've been up to for the last few months.  I have been organizing my life, simplifying my surroundings and infusing peace and calm into my existence.   What have you been up to?

Motivational Monday #65 - When Your To Do List is Bigger Than You

This morning I wrote down my to do list.  Usually I love lists, but I had been dreading this list for days.  What I was afraid of turned out to be true...the list is bigger than I am!  It is HUGE!  There are so many good, worthy, needful, urgent and important items on the list that nothing can really go away.

And that makes me sad.

Very sad.

I was hoping for a short list.  An itty bitty teeny list.  A list that would be quickly swept under the carpet and finished off.

No such luck.

So what to do....hmmm.  I think I will start by refusing to buy groceries, I mean really, who needs to eat anyways?  From there, I think I will stop washing clothes.  I'm not a fan of laundry, so that's gone.  I think I will also stop paying bills.  That is such a boring job.  Maybe I can get away without completing my volunteer hours...do you think they will notice?  Oh!  I know!  I will also eliminate anything festive.  I mean who wants to do fun things when there are serious work things to do?

Okay, I admit, this doesn't sound much like a plan.  So, what do you do when your list gets longer than you can possibly ever tackle?